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As a mummy, each day has it’s own experience, rewards and challenges. Our best laid out plans can be turned upside down with a snotty nose, fever, bad weather or those days when it can take literally four hours to get out the door. Being a full time mummy can at times be difficult and not the casual life I envisioned pre children. When these days occur, I have learnt to adjust the sails.

Some days I can play with my beautiful daughter, see friends, go to play group, do two loads of washing, empty the dishwasher and make a wholesome meal for the family – while only putting the TV on for 20 minutes. Other days I’m lucky if I’m dressed before noon, wading through the devastation of toys and lego pieces on the floor while looking at a mouldy piece of bread in the cupboard not knowing how I’m going to muster up anything nourishing for either of us to eat. Or the dreaded look on my husband’s face when he comes in, sees the apocalypse and asks, “what have you done all day”? This used to bother me. Being a new mum was a minefield of self-doubt, questioning if I was doing it right, gauging my ability on the tears (by both of us) on how well the day had gone.

Feeling overwhelmed by the sheer change in life from working in a corporate environment with meetings and appraisals, adult conversation to now spit up and tears and managing to get my baby down for a nap. I’m an organised, prepared person. I love reading and learning and ticking things off my to do list. I used to shy away from being proud of this because to someone who isn’t this way it can seem quite anal retentive to be organised. But I love structure and becoming a mummy I lost this core sense of who I was. Structure and organisation went out the window.

“Embracing the go with the flow mentality? Terrifying”

As well as being new to all things baby and the overwhelming responsibility of a whole new person being dependant upon me I had to face this head on. How did I change? I learnt to adjust the sails. Every day is new with a baby. No day will be the same and each new day will bring it’s own challenges but also its own marvellous new experiences and rewards. Plans will go out the window. When that happened, which it very often did, I learnt that change is a good thing and for that day, as every new day, brought my baby and I a new start, we took on those days as it came to us.

We knew we were meeting friends in town, but if she didn’t sleep, overslept, did a massive poo as we were leaving or was too sick to go out, we simply changed our plans. We made our day work for us and most importantly we embraced it. Sickness days meant lots of Disney films and cuddles. Bad weather days meant we got to build a fort and bake muffins together. No food in the house meant pizza in the local café.

Before I was a mummy, change was something I wasn’t comfortable with. But becoming a mummy is one of the biggest changes I’ve ever encountered. Change is a constant in our lives now and something I embrace with and a big smile and a quick check through my activity list to see what else we can do that day.

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