0800 144 8200
£ GBP
(0)
Parenting Hacks, Lifestyle, Wellness & Everything In Between. For Parents-To-Be & Parents-Right-Now. Parenting Hacks, Lifestyle, Wellness & Everything In Between. For Parents-To-Be & Parents-Right-Now.
(0)
Making Milestones
Baby talk Baby talk
Making Milestones
May 1, 2018
(0)
Baby talk Baby talk
Making Milestones
May 1, 2018
(0)
Like any parent, I cherish those exciting, proud-as-punch ‘first’ moments: my son’s first steps – caught on camera; his first day at nursery – the customary front door shot, proudly holding his rucksack, is framed on the mantel piece. But it’s not always easy to know when your child is ready for the next milestone. With our son, Bertie, on the cusp of turning three years old, we’ve hit some big ones recently – some controversially late, others not so much. Here’s what I learned along the way.

 

The Bottle Wean

 

Bertie has spent most of his life milk-drunk – I guess being a 10lb 14oz new-born would do that to a kid. So I kept him on his beloved bottle for months longer than any of my friends’ children, albeit rather self-consciously. But it pays to relax and follow your child’s lead because you never know, they might surprise you. Bertie was downing his usual full bottle at bedtime one day, and the next he was pushing it away. And that was that. In the end, at 22 months he was the one showing me when the time was right to stop, meaning we could skip the dreaded conversation of no-bottle-before-bed. And I still give him a small cup of milk at tea time to give his bones a little boost.

 

From Cot to Bed

 

Deciding when to transition your child into a big bed is down to his or her bedtime pattern and behaviour, but if they’re suddenly looking a bit too grown-up to be behind bars, it’s probably time to make the switch. Make it feel special and grown-up but stick to the usual routine so that it’s just like any other night. I would highly recommend using a bed guard – Bertie’s first few hours of being in his ‘big boy bed’ were, unbeknownst to me, spent asleep on the floor and despite later helping him back in, I then endured a sleepless night of worry which ended in a 5am online purchase.

 

Dropping the Nap

 

All hail that sacred time of day when your feet are well and truly up! But when your toddler starts taking hours to go down at night, you know it’s time to say goodbye to midday me-time. But I say embrace it. You’re no longer tied to a deadline and have the freedom to extend that morning outing into a lunch date if you want to. Since Bertie dropped his nap at aged two and a half, the days have been surprisingly more relaxed. We’ve been able to get more done, have full days out and he’s (oddly) been less grumpy. And don’t forget the reward of an earlier bedtime either…

 

Potty Training

 

Controversial it may be, but I waited until a month before Bertie’s third birthday before the potty came out. A few friends with older children said, “the later you leave it, the sooner he’ll grasp it” – and they were right. He starts pre-school soon, so I made that my nappy-free target and waited. Over Christmas, his speech suddenly doubled and that’s when I knew he was ready; we could finally have a clean-cut conversation, I could explain the concept to him properly and he quickly learnt to communicate when he needed to ‘go’. My advice? Save on washing – wait until you feel the time’s right and don’t give in to peer pressure.

Philippa Pearne
@philippapearne
Former Beauty Editor @ Glamour UK. Freelance beauty, lifestyle and parenting journalist.
read more

get involved in the conversation

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked.

more from fifi's journal
find-your-mum-tribe
Family Family
Social media can be a lifeline for new mums. Bianca Presto advises how to find your tribe
(0)
creating-a-yoga-space-for-you-your-baby
Childbirth & Labour Childbirth & Labour
Mandy Rees shares her tips on creating the perfect yoga space for mama and baby
(0)
the-great-debate-weaning
Baby talk Baby talk
Sam and Gemma from This is Mothership talk all things weaning – purées or baby led? Let’s see them battle it out…
(0)
nct-not-for-me
Childbirth & Labour Childbirth & Labour
Jessica Diner decided to go against the grain when it came to NCT classes. Here’s why.
(0)
man-talk
Fatherhood Fatherhood
Dad blogger Jamie Day explains why he’s launched his new podcast tackling MENtal health
(0)
mama-multi-tasking
Parenting Hacks Parenting Hacks
How to manage a hectic schedule with two kids? Laura-Jo McClintock shares her experiences
(0)
find-your-mum-tribe
Family Family
Social media can be a lifeline for new mums. Bianca Presto advises how to find your tribe
(0)
creating-a-yoga-space-for-you-your-baby
Childbirth & Labour Childbirth & Labour
Mandy Rees shares her tips on creating the perfect yoga space for mama and baby
(0)
the-great-debate-weaning
Baby talk Baby talk
Sam and Gemma from This is Mothership talk all things weaning – purées or baby led? Let’s see them battle it out…
(0)
nct-not-for-me
Childbirth & Labour Childbirth & Labour
Jessica Diner decided to go against the grain when it came to NCT classes. Here’s why.
(0)
man-talk
Fatherhood Fatherhood
Dad blogger Jamie Day explains why he’s launched his new podcast tackling MENtal health
(0)
mama-multi-tasking
Parenting Hacks Parenting Hacks
How to manage a hectic schedule with two kids? Laura-Jo McClintock shares her experiences
(0)
read more articles
close
Parenting Hacks, Lifestyle, Wellness & Everything In Between. For Parents-To-Be & Parents-Right-Now.
fifi's favourites
fifi's favourites fifi's favourites fifi's favourites fifi's favourites
close
Parenting Hacks, Lifestyle, Wellness & Everything In Between. For Parents-To-Be & Parents-Right-Now.
register for an account
Create an account to enjoy a personalised shopping experience.
Create a wishlist Speed up checkout register now
Shopping Bag
Your shopping bag is empty
Newsletter