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A Man’s Place In The Labour Room
Parenting Parenting
A Man’s Place In The Labour Room
April 6, 2017
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Parenting Parenting
A Man’s Place In The Labour Room
April 6, 2017
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As a father of two (Edie 4, Arlo 1), I’ve experienced first-hand the extreme intensity that fills a labour room. Both experiences were very different; Edie’s birth was quick but incredibly stressful (pass me the gas and air!), whereas Arlo’s was very long and very fattening (we pretty much cleaned out the hospital snack shop to pass the time). But, one thing that was constant on each occasion was the feeling of helplessness once the agonising pain kicked-in for my wife, Georgia.

Now, this might come as a shock to you, but I’m no anaesthetist, so I couldn’t do much about her pain. I knew, though, that I could help by making everything as comfortable as possible. That meant talking calmly through what we’d learnt:

  • Massages

  • Consulting midwives

  • Wiping her brow

  • Removing her sick bowl

  • Accepting a tirade of obscenities I didn’t think possible from her mouth

  • And simply telling her I loved her (despite said obscenities).

I’ll let you into a secret – a man’s place in the labour room is pretty tricky to figure out because, frankly, there’s not a huge amount of significant things you can do to help.

Whatever you do do though, don’t use it as an excuse to repeatedly disappear or play on your phone. Just being there, to do whatever you can to support your partner is all that’s needed. No matter how small, it will help.

Jamie Day
@adayinthelifedad
Editor @FatherInc, Contributor @BritishGQ, Columnist @LittleLondonMagazine
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2 comments
Kate Loveday
says
31st Jul 2017

So interesting to hear this from a man’s point of view!

claire
says
1st Aug 2017

Good read 🙂

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