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We’re lucky.  We own a house, it’s detached and it’s in a location we love.  The downside?  It’s tiny.  Two small bedrooms and not an inch of extra space.  When we were two people, it was the perfect couple’s pad. We could entertain, have people to stay and we had floor space without plastic toy obstacles. Then, when we became three, we still had the luxury of a nursery for our little boy, Sebastian, that had space for a nursing chair, changing drawers and a cot.

It was cramped, but perfectly pieced together.  When Sybil, our second child, arrived we had barely discussed what we would do when it was time to move her from our room into her own cot and into Sebastian’s room.  We just glossed over it, always concluding that we would “deal with it” – what other choice did we have? After all, we did it as children… talk about first world problems! So, when the time came to move Sybil, the only solution we could think of with the space we had and for what the children needed was a bunkbed.

“‘It’ll be fine’, we told ourselves, ‘we just have to work with what we have’. But the reality was far more daunting”

What if Sybil woke Sebastian when she screamed in the night (which is very loudly, just FYI) and he goes from being an excellent sleeper to a sleep deprived, angry and resentful brother?  What if Sebastian feels put out now that he has to share his bedroom with his annoyingly loud younger sister?  What if he hates his new bed?  Just WHAT IF?!  We’ve all become so sleep obsessed that any new set-up or environment is terrifying territory.

I met with another mother who I know through work and explained my reservations.  “Just do it!”, she said, “They won’t wake each other up, I promise. I waited too long to do it and now they’re in the bunkbed and I don’t know what I was so worried about!”. It was the reassuring nudge I needed.  We set about finding a bunkbed that accommodated a cot within the bottom frame and had the option to split into single beds should the house set-up ever change.

So, did it work? Yes. I do still have to remind Sebastian that his bedroom is now, in fact, his along with his sister’s.  But he accepts it and is still living off the novelty of being in the top bunk (the best one) and that Gramps built it for him.  Some mornings I hear them shouting and giggling at each other and when I go in, Sebastian has often climbed into Sybil’s cot and they’re playing, their friendship developing by being roomies.  And my friend was right, too.  Sybil screams and Sebastian snores through it all.  Sybil waits for “BEEE” to come to bed before settling but not before she has sung to him and when Sebastian wakes upset from a bad dream or if he needs the toilet, Sybil continues to snooze through, happy in the knowledge that she is part of our cosy little world.

Lauren Murdoch-Smith
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