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The Unexpected Joy of Letting Go
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The Unexpected Joy of Letting Go
May 17, 2019
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May 17, 2019
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Perhaps, you’ve heard the term ‘helicopter parent’ thrown around in the media recently. The helicopter parent in essence ‘takes an overprotective or excessive interest in the life of their child’ and this school of thinking has been popular for generations.
 

With technology today enabling us to be in touch 24/7, these improved channels of communication have made it easier than ever for parents to oversee every little detail of their child’s life. As a mother myself, navigating life with a very quickly growing son, I think it’s important to strike a balance between nurturing, and allowing children to experience failure for themselves in order to build the confidence that comes from bouncing-back.

Free-Range Parents

My parents were the original ‘free-range’ thinkers, thanks to their own laissez-faire upbringing. Growing up, my mother was a rebel, skipped school when she didn’t agree with the teachers and got up early to ride her horse.The thought of a 10 year old waking at 5:30am to saddle her horse and ride across rural Georgia is inconceivable today, and yet she did it.

takes an overprotective or excessive interest in the life of their child”

 

Learning to Let Go

My childhood wasn’t quite as ‘free-range’, but I had considerably more freedom than my peers – I even sewed and baked my own gingerbread. When I think of letting my eight year old son play with a needle or cook without supervision, I am horrified. How and why did my parents trust me with adult tasks, when I am unable to do so for my son? For them, it was perfectly normal, and their primary goal was to raise an independent human being.

In my experience we either become our parents, or we swing the opposite way, and I’m afraid to admit my son doesn’t even know how to turn on a washing machine. I’m so fiercely protective I still hold his hand so tightly it turns white when we cross a busy street. But I’m slowly coming to the realisation that we must let go as parents and allow our children to learn the way the world works for themselves. That is the real challenge every parent faces whether you are a free-range or helicopter parent. How, why and when we do this, it’s a matter of intuition, and (hopefully) perfect timing.

my mother was a rebel, skipped school when she didn’t agree with the teachers and got up early to ride her horse

There’s is a kind of excitement, dare I say unexpected joy, in the notion of him flying the nest in a couple of years. Not living life for our children is one of the bravest things we can do and we need to believe that they can and will succeed without us. But no matter how glad I am that my parents let go earlier than most and raised me to be strong and independent, I think I’ll be holding on just a little longer, because thankfully for us it’s not quite time…

Simone Baret
@lamaisonfolle
Managing Editor at BambiniFashion.com
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